I am always telling my clients to focus on the what and the why - that is, what do you want and why do you want it? - and let go of the how.
Because often the how is the thing that stops us from believing in our what. As soon as you decide what you want and realize you dont know how you can get it, you don't think it's possible.
But more important than the what is the why. If you ask yourself "but why?" often enough you will always bring yourself to a feeling that feels good to you.
And that, I believe is our big why - to feel good.
And what feels good to you is unique to you. It's the diversity that makes the world go round.
When I hit my rock bottom in 2016 following my Mum's passing, I asked myself what made me feel really good.
And my answer?
When I see someone .........
* realize more of their potential,
*become more of who they want to be,
* are more aligned with their true essence,
* begin to believe in themselves.
That's one of my why's.
Here is an example of this why of mine.
Caroline shares how she is becoming more of who she wants to be as she experiences the Soul Pleaser program .....
*** In the last 12 months I’ve learned... ***
I’m a 3rd Generation people pleaser. Realising this is learned behaviour, as a child, observing my mother and grandmother. My grandmother, was a matriarch that ruled with selfless love. As an ex-teacher, wife, mum, and building my own creative business compounded this. I would go out of my way to help.... I’m learning to say no… I always felt really guilty if I took time for myself, and have learned that I am my priority!
I’ve forgiven childhood bullies, that lived in the street where I grew up (I was 4 or 5) that initiated my feelings of low esteem that locked me into a massive ‘fear of rejection’ carried like a millstone around my neck for 50 years, feelings of not being 'good enough', 'smart enough', 'popular enough', 'pretty enough'…this has been such a release, as I genuinely have let it go!
My soul desires & needs to communicate with God/Supreme Being/Universe.
I am beginning to recognise my vibration and spending more and more time on the higher notes rather than bumping along on the bottom (especially in the extraordinary circumstances we are living in, here in the UK)
I’ve developed a meditation practice and write daily ‘morning pages’ for me - this is a cross between a diary and journaling.
I am attracting my tribe. Interesting people have crossed my path and now I am developing new friendships.
I’m still not able to cry, but my emotions are unlocking- it’s becoming less of a big issue for me.
I am in the right place for my business, (even though it has taken a huge hit over the last 16 months) Every time I think of giving up, I sell something or someone enquires about making something in glass… my creativity is growing.
I’ve been able to let my family go and be who they are meant to be.
Each day I’m a day closer to meeting my 13-month-old granddaughter (in Australia,) for the first time.
I’ve learned that I’m not the only one and there are other women, like me, emerging from whatever has been holding them back, as beautiful, beautiful butterflies.
I am an important/significant person and it doesn’t matter what I think people think of me or if they like me – I don’t like everyone.
I have a list of ‘I am statements’ that I speak out every day…
I still haven’t finished the ‘People Pleaser to Soul Pleaser Course’, and have a lifetime to complete it. I don't need to 'beat myself up' about it
It is okay to be me...